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How do you portray a person who leaves his/her craving LOVE and run after other contributory or selfish gains?

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I can cite many instances of love being torn apart on various grounds such as materialistic gains, caste, religion and region, good looks, parental pressure etc. Very seldom the person invokes empathy on the shattering mental impact left on the affected. While the victim actually benefits from the release of life tied to an unsteady soul for life, the agony of separation is likely to leave a lifetime scar on the affected. In this context how do you define one such person?


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In today’s materialistic world the importance of LOVE has diminished to the extend you find it only in few romantic novels, poems, epics, stories & typical TV serials only. The institution of marriage is nothing but institution of family trading where some one purchases & some one sells, high class banquet halls, farmhouses, various diplomatic & stared hotels, luxury cars, imported flower arrangement, diamond & golden ornaments, high class social gathering, foreigner dancing troupes, high class music system & musicians, along with mixture of traditional uttan & mendhi ceremonies, bachelor's party & ladies sangeet, inclusion of movie , TV & stage actors & what not. Prior dowry settlement, demands as well offers. High class astrologers matching & fixing janam kundlis & tawas according to stars positions, charging high rates. Family pundit jee being pampered during each ever marriage function. Relatives & friends getting more then their dues in each & every family function, eager to wear traditional Rajasthan pugris to remain in lime light during the main marriage function. In this shinny atmosphere you want to search the LOVE. Even if by mistake any of them bride or groom had an affair with some one else that person is picked & thrown out as a fly from the cup of tea. This all happens prior or at the time of marriage but incase some one gets a chance to do so after his/her marriage due to family pressure to dump the previous spouse & go ahead with an new match, he or she won’t mind as what all they had dreamed once could not be fulfilled but now a second chance is there for them to have it. If you may be gaining in crores & few lakhs you have to pay for previous life partner to get dissolution of the marriage nothing wrong in such a trade. What about the sentiments, love. affection, "who cares" let some author write a story for TV serial out of it all typical ladies in Indian homes love such stories. As far defining such a person is concerned, no definition can be given as all are same when it comes to making money is concerned, never compare love with money as latter is always far much stronger then prior. Some may call such person cheat, bewafa, mutlabi, fraud & what not, but tell me who cares!


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Dear never try to see only one side of coin. For ex. If a person is in love with somebody do u think he should carry it even if he is under parental pressure my answer he should not carry it and both of person in relationship should understand it.love with one person have no right to hurt love and emotions of many around u .that to ,of people like parents. Though agony of sepration leaves a scar on effected, but agony is more and deep because they were not practical during relationship and mere emotions in any relation ship pays off bad


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1. Let them do, what they want.
Please you don’t do these things.

2. One word definition as "selfish"!

3. If the person leaves his or her love for financial benefits then surely is immature since he or she does not know that at a later stage in life, after retirement, would be completely alone with none to support.

If for reasons like he or she does not have a good body, that's quiet inhumane.

Parental pressure actually compels the person to think whom does he or she love more and what would be the ideal thing to do. This has more to do with morality.

But I believe consciously or unconsciously the one who leaves also suffers since he or she loved not without cause.

4. Do people really give up those whom they love for materialistic gains or for more superficial things? No. Because those people don’t really love anyone, they can’t love really love anyone ever unless they shed their selfishness. Such people are not capable of loyalty. They are selfish and cowardly besides being stupid. They lack the basic integrity of character. Shame on such people! Such people are actually cheating their own happiness out of ignorance while they may think that they are pursuing it. Truly speaking I have seldom seen such people happy, content or at peace with themselves.

5. Are you sure that what u r citing is love and not merely a fling or infatuation???

6. If you look animals, do you find any relationship between them. Are they doing any thing innovative in their life? What you enjoy on this planet in the name of science including this beautiful yahoo answering session all are based on the relationships we have created.

7. It depends on the circumstances she/he is facing. Sometimes one has to put others before self.

8. It is very difficult to judge a person. A Hindi song is there.(matalab ke a duniya sari yeha koye kese ka yar nehi kse ko sucha payar nehi.) Sorry its my opinion.

9. Here let me say something.. it might not make any sense to you.. But I completely believe in it...
“If you love something, set it free.
if it comes back, it was and will always be yours,
if it never returns it was never yours to begin with”.

See now if da person leaves and doesn’t return.. 4get it he didn’t deserve u. He didn’t deserve ur love...but if he returns give him a chance and believe,... me .. u'll never get to see happier people than u and dat guy......

10. That is life and I think she is just materialistic moreover "Love can't keep us alive" can it?

11. Love is a lovely affair. It is gift of god. If anyone hurts it, he/she has to pay.
If your sacrificing ur love for good/healthy reasons then u are great. u will get reward from god.
If u are ditching ur love for filthy reasons then just imagine what god will do..
“uske lathi me awaj bhi nahin hoti”. Not a word to describe..

12. I will call him/her a cheat, "Bewafa"

13. WORTHLESS

14. There can be several reasons why a person would allow himself or herself to be moved by such pressure for example religion or family. I have moved from US to Sweden and married an Iranian. The cultural differences have been so hard. My family hates me etc...... While being in Sweden I have heard of many people who love each other very much get torn apart by their families because of caste or religion or whatever. Some have even been killed or beaten into leaving of course if they have been killed then they left involuntarily. But family pressure can have a very pronounced effect on a person and if the family is very strict the person that left would not show remorse in front of anyone because then it would show to the family or the families friends that that person still cared about the other and then the family would put more pressure on the that left.
As for leaving for materialistic gains or good looks or cheating then they were not worth your time. I know that there are religions out there that discourage women/ men not to marry someone that is not in the same league as they are example if one family is rich and the other poor. The poor ones family would definitely encourage the poor one to get married it would help that family especially if there is a dowry involved(payment to the family for the bride) If the rich one thought that is the only reason they are getting married then they would definitely discourage them not to get married.
I am sorry if something like this has happened to you and it takes very strong people to say no to a family but if it happened to you then you are worth more than they are saying or doing to you

15. I describe the person who is left, depressed, deprived, soul tied, angry, hurting, wanting approval and acceptance, wanting to hurt someone else in the way that they were hurt, wanting to get back at the world for what has been done to them, unforgiving, victims, hopeless, and more than anything a basket case. Been there, done that don't want to go back to that hurtful place.

The person that left is simply a selfish bastard

16. Stupid

17. Cheaters are people that has to be punished and has to be tied up to GODS HANDS so that they will never ever hurt anyone

18. A coward.

19. In one word, CRAZY

20. It's not your place to judge a person, first of all. Secondly, maybe this person just didn't like you as much as you liked them. Since when is being happy a selfish/contributory act? Get over it and move on. You shouldn't just pigeon hole someone to make yourself feel less hurt.